We’ve heard this said so many times and there is truth in it. However, how many of those relationships were ended because our flesh was offended in a way that brought in a wall of unforgiveness?
Being a human is tough enough, being a woman seems to be even more so. Nevertheless, for God to ask us to walk in love towards another person who has wronged us . . .
which relationships are God given gifts;
which ones are God assignments;
which ones are God given to strengthen us.
As women, we tend to run our lives by emotions if we are not living in the spirit of God. This causes us to compare, judge, accuse, and make assumptions of others. Why do we do this . . . because we are a vessel that lives in a spiritual and natural world that ultimately is directed orchestrated by our choices – our responses.
When we are living in the spirit, (our goal), we make Godly choices producing Godly responses that lead to Godly relationships. Likewise, when we are living out of our flesh, (our emotions), we allow our choices and responses to lead us into areas of fear and doubt which in turn opens the door for offense. In some cases leading us to isolation or areas of control and manipulation.
It is not easy living by the spirit, because we constantly are living in a flesh-by-flesh molded world that needs God’s mercy and grace 24/7. So, how we do stay in communion with the spirit of God His love towards others? By guarding our hearts, digging deep into His word, and asking the Holy Spirit to walk with us each day. By keeping in pace with the Holy Spirit, we are able to hear with clarity the voice of our Father. Each stride brings us closer to hear His heart beat for others, especially towards those that God sets in our path of destiny.
Sometimes being a woman of God, living in the spirit means we have to lay down our pride (fear, hurt, mistrust) at the throne of our Father. In that we are saying that, we chose to forgive. Even though we may feel we are justified, that we have every right to hold on to that wrong against us . . . Especially, when we do not feel we’ve done anything wrong. We still need to forgive. Why?
In reality, the only thing it has made us is weaker, a dull sword, and wounded . . .
broken and carrying a harden heart.
When we walk in the complete love of God towards another person –unconditional love – we are, allowing Christ to step in bring healing and resolution to areas that we have no control over within our own lives and that of the other person. God’s love at work in us is evident when we are able to look past the wrong, the hurt and forgive. As we forgive, we allow freedom to reign over lives and we are able to reach out with the love of Christ in a way that our thoughts, our words, our actions exemplify love not hate or bitterness . . . or offense. The longer we hold onto the hurt, the offense the longer we hold ourselves in bondage.
I encourage you this week to seek the Lord and ask Him to show you who you hold an offense against. He may show you only one or He may show you many.
- Seek Him with a heart of repentance for holding a grudge, bitterness, hate . . . offense towards that person
- Break the unhealthy soul tie between you and that person
- Ask for God’s forgiveness
- If you need to ask forgiveness of the other person or tell them you have forgiven them DO IT . . this is your choice as each case is different
- Walk in your renewed gift of freedom
- Choose upon each day rising that you will walk in the love of God living by the spirit not the flesh
For some this may be a daily routine until you feel released. This is because for some offenses, roots of bitterness have been allowed to set in and a changing of heart and breaking of mindsets are an area of healing that must take place.
Suggested Reading: Ephesians 4:20-32
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