The Power We Have Over Rejection
We all have felt rejection at some point in our lives and if not well we are not being very truthful now are we?
Rejection is that feeling we get when we are faced with a prospect of promise or chance of hope, but then out of nowhere an unforeseen response of denial is presented in its stead. It is our reaction right there at that moment that will establish how we develop into who we are . . .
Rejection vs. Acceptance
Our perceptions make us who we are while at the same time our perceptions are made by who we have been. How we view ourselves affects how we view others, our surroundings in the past, present, and future occurrences. Continuing to live our lives, believing a false truth about who we are, and believing the lie about what others think about us leads on various paths.
Rejection is fear based. Fear when held higher than God is sin. When we hold something higher than the knowledge of God, we have created a communication blocker. Hearing God speak to us just got that much harder . . .
More simply put . . .
Hearing God’s truth about who we are just got that much harder.
Rejection builds habits in many ways for different individuals (drugs, alcohol, sex, over eating, gossip, or gaming). The most common is approval addiction. Driven to fill the void for approval the word ‘yes’ has no limits. One is constantly seeking for approval by others in how they dress, the # of friends on their friend list, the # of likes or comments on a status, how many selfie shots can be taken and posted because the last one was not good enough, etc. The list is endless and goes beyond the norm.
Speculation, assumption, and comparison are costly elements that weigh down on the foundation of relationships. These three can be damaging factors and eventually the leading killers of an individual and most relationships. It is important to note that these are all rooted in fear.
1 John 4:18 “There is no fear in love [dread does not exist], but full-grown (complete, perfect) love [a] turns fear out of doors and expels every trace of terror! For fear [b] brings with it the thought of punishment, and [so] he who is afraid has not reached the full maturity of love [is not yet grown into love’s complete perfection].”
When someone is immersed in the seas of rejection they will tend to shy away from the indulgence of new relationships taking them into places of isolation. It is much easier for them to be by themselves than to risk the hurt of being denied or reminded of who they are not and whom they wish to be. In this cell of self-imprisonment they are unable to find who they truly are, enjoy life, or know true love. On the flip-side one may create a mask of who they are not, just to dance in the masquerade of approval living miserably for all to see a facade. This is what it looks like when the power of rejection has ahold of someone. Fears, insecurities, and mistrust can cause one to doubt God’s love and His acceptance, let alone anyone else’s. They do not believe that they are worthy of love that they are good enough for love.
“Nothing fills the void, nothing will until one recognizes the core root of their pain. Once this has been unearthed, God heals and brings life to what was once void and dead allowing His love to reign.” ~ jennifer goodson
All good solid relationships are built on love and acceptance not fear. Fear creates a banquet for rejection and mistrust. We have to realize that we are accepted based on God’s love for us. We cannot do anything more or less for Him to accept us. Many who seek acceptance will find a place to serve in excess, or look to make another person happy in excess. Meaning they will over indulge over perform in order to fill that void that only God can fill. Many who seek acceptance do not administer boundaries in their lives nor do they know what healthy boundaries look like. The word ‘no’ seems foreign or sinful.
~ Power over Rejection knows:
His acceptance of us is not based on our performance, looks, education, or riches. It is through His love we have acceptance. Through His love, we have Power over rejection. Knowing God loves us for us just as we are no matter where we are at this moment in our lives is liberating. He loves the good, the bad, the ugly right now, right here and accepts us right here right now. We are a work in progress and . . . YES! He says, “You are GOOD ENOUGH!”
How do we not go back to where we were?
How do we not go back into a dark place of rejection to that place of approval addiction?
How do we not go back into that place of fear of man instead of fearing God?
1 – Realize that rejection is seeded from an original thought of a lie that one is not good enough not valued.
2 – Stop the mind from repeating the thought process. Learn to retrain the thought processes. Learn to take captive your thoughts and align them with the mind of Christ. Do this by daily reading the word of God and guarding your mind from the things that are NOT pure, righteous, and holy.
Romans 12:2 AMP
“Do not be conformed to this world (this age), [fashioned after and adapted to its external, superficial customs], but be transformed (changed) by the [entire] renewal of your mind [by its new ideals and its new attitude], so that you may prove [for yourselves] what is the good and acceptable and perfect will of God, even the thing which is good and acceptable and perfect [in His sight for you].”
Isaiah 26:3 AMP
“You will guard him and keep him in perfect and constant peace whose mind [both its inclination and its character] is stayed on You, because he commits himself to You, leans on You, and hopes confidently in You.”
3 – Speak these to yourself daily:
You are Loved = You are Accepted = Just as You Are
God’s Love is Freely Given
God’s Love is Unconditional – no strings attached
Proverbs 18:21 AMP “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and they who indulge in it shall eat the fruit of it [for death or life].”
Ephesians 1:4 AMP
“Even as (in His Love) He chose us (actually picked us out for Himself as His own) in Christ before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy (consecrated and set apart for Him) and blameless in His sight, even above reproach, before Him in love.”
We are Chosen – Accepted – Loved
We are Blameless
We are Above Reproach
4 – Receive Love
Sometimes we have a hard time receiving something that is so freely given. I know when someone offers to pay for my dinner I am the first say, “No, I got it.”
I think it is about time we learn to accept a BLESSING OF LOVE when it is staring us in the face and simply say, “Yes, God I accept Your love for me. I accept the way You love me even though I’m a mess right now. You must see something so beautiful worth loving. I trust You with my life the way it looks right now at this moment I give myself over to the process of growth and repent of the fear that I have allowed to rule and reign over my mind and heart; the fear that I have allowed to block me from hearing Your voice. I am Your Creation Father and I know You have a plan for me.”
His love His acceptance of us is based solely on the fact that we are His creation.
We are His.
Christ spread wide His arms of love on the cross accepting us and forgiving our sins so that we could be free from such things that hold us bound.
We have Power over Rejection through His Healing Power of Love!
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